This post is the first of three that will be coming over the next 2 months. Each of these changes are pretty big and I don’t know exactly when they’ll happen so I have to be careful about timing. Stay tuned and thank you for your continued support.
I’m embarking on a new stage in life. Most of you know that I’m an extremely open person but I won’t be sharing all of the details this time. First of all, my openness has been my most valuable asset as it enables people to feel like they are a part of something. My life isn’t a big deal, nor is it a life that everyone wants to have. Trust me, you don’t want to walk in my shoes. I have learned that living so transparently will get people on your side (if you’re a good person) and thus help you get through some of the hard times. To all of you that follow me virtually, thank you.
It’s difficult for me to not speak from the heart on this because, most of you started following me after Laura entered into my life. Not very many of you know I’ve been at this for over 10 years, blogging, traveling and writing. I didn’t start taking things seriously until 2006 which is when I started dating Laura. So throughout our relationship, you’ve known “Adam & Laura” and now it will just be Adam. It’s a more difficult split since we were so open about our relationship.
The risks of having such an open relationship aren’t apparent while you’re doing it because things are going so well but like Chris and Tara, there are risks when things are over. Their “breakup” was chronicled in San Francisco Magazine.
A few weeks ago, I became single. It’s a weird thing to put in writing and I’ll talk more about it on a future post. In summary, I was in a 3.5 year relationship in high school and then a 3.75 year relationship with Laura. There wasn’t anything in between so it’s odd being a bachelor at 23. The only details I will add is that I left her but it wasn’t because of her. She’s a wonderful person but we just were on slightly different paths. I know the haters will speculate and guess what happened. Save it because you’ll never be able to guess and you’re only wasting your time.
Going forward, I’ll continue to work my ass off and Laura will as well. We remain great friends and our friendship hasn’t changed.
wishing the best for both of you in your new adventures
This hurts man, I know how it feels. I was in back to back long term relationships, both about three years. Now I've been single for two years, and as much as I love having a girlfriend there for me at all times, I've built an incredible circle of friends that I know I'll be able to rely on for years to come.
Use this time when your single to reflect, and focus on bettering yourself. It's going to be awesome.
All that really matters in the end is that you both stayed friends. We grow from experiences like this, so it shouldn't be a bad thing considering your both still going to be friends, and still going to be amaing people, whether you're together or not.
From the part of you that I've had the pleasure of spending time with I'm sure that you are making the right choice for you now (not that I have any spectacular insight) and you sound like you are genuinely making strides into the next phase in your life. I only hope to be a part of that in whatever way I can. Looking forward to whatever is yet to come!
Why the need to include ‘I left her’, maybe it’s my own stuff, just feel like you needed to include a zing.
Why the need to include 'I left her', maybe it's my own stuff, just feel like you needed to include a zing.
Hello Carolyn. I did reply to your comment directly via email but it's worth answering it here as well.
When the post was public, I immediately received more anonymous hate and some were extremely grotesque. All of the feedback received made fun of me and called me a loser and that I would be single for life and all implied that Laura was smart to dump me.
With Laura's permission, I added that but it wasn't to be a zing. It was in defense of people who were finding any little thing to pick on. Naturally, I'm going to have people calling me an ass for leaving her but that's just how it goes. There's no way to please everyone.
Thanks.
hi just read this after….
But, you did include it .. and are aware of the weight of the words
Bring it On, which it has
Never Easy Life is LIfe.
Exactly – Can't please all the people all the time.
I just attended the filming of an upcoming History show. The People
Speak with film Director Howard Zinn and Matt Damon.
http://www.history.com/peoplespeak
At this time in history it's as if we are in infancy stage of
communicating and will forever be… language the spoke word was the
last development method of communication
Hello Carolyn. I did reply to your comment directly via email but it’s worth answering it here as well.nnWhen the post was public, I immediately received more anonymous hate and some were extremely grotesque. All of the feedback received made fun of me and called me a loser and that I would be single for life and all implied that Laura was smart to dump me.nnWith Laura’s permission, I added that but it wasn’t to be a zing. It was in defense of people who were finding any little thing to pick on. Naturally, I’m going to have people calling me an ass for leaving her but that’s just how it goes. There’s no way to please everyone. nnThanks.
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