{"id":4741,"date":"2015-07-07T15:49:16","date_gmt":"2015-07-07T15:49:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/adam-jackson.net\/blog\/?p=4741"},"modified":"2015-06-24T15:57:31","modified_gmt":"2015-06-24T15:57:31","slug":"linked-the-male-suicides-how-social-perfectionism-kills","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/adamchandler.me\/blog\/2015\/07\/07\/linked-the-male-suicides-how-social-perfectionism-kills\/","title":{"rendered":"Linked: &#8220;The male suicides: how social perfectionism kills&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/mosaicscience.com\/story\/male-suicide\">via Mosaic Science<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em>Because it\u2019s a judgement on other people\u2019s imagined judgements of you, it can be especially toxic. \u201cIt\u2019s nothing to do with what those people actually think of you,\u201d he says. \u201cIt\u2019s what you think they expect. The reason it\u2019s so problematic is that it\u2019s outside your control.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201dO\u2019Connor first came across social perfectionism in studies of American university students. \u201cI thought it wouldn\u2019t be applicable in a UK context and that it certainly wouldn\u2019t be applicable to people from really difficult backgrounds. Well, it is. It\u2019s a remarkably robust effect. We\u2019ve looked at it in the context of the most disadvantaged areas of Glasgow.\u201d It began in 2003 with an initial study that looked at 22 people who had recently attempted suicide, as well as a control group, and assessed them using a 15-question quiz that measures agreement with statements such as \u201cSuccess means that I must work even harder to please others\u201d and \u201cPeople expect nothing less than perfection from me\u201d. \u201cWe\u2019ve found this relationship between social perfectionism and suicidality in all populations where we\u2019ve done the work,\u201d says O\u2019Connor, \u201cincluding among the disadvantaged and the affluent.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>What\u2019s not yet known is why. \u201cOur hypothesis is that people who are social perfectionist are much more sensitive to signals of failure in the environment,\u201d he says.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>I ask if this is about perceived failure to fulfil roles, and what roles men feel they should fill? Father? Bread-winner?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cNow there\u2019s this change in society,\u201d O\u2019Connor replies, \u201cyou have to be Mr Metrosexual too. There are all these greater expectations \u2013 more opportunities for men to feel like failures.\u201d<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Incredible findings and a rude awakening. There are a ton of uninformed hypothesis I can contribute but the report speaks for itself.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"via Mosaic Science: Because it\u2019s a judgement on other people\u2019s imagined judgements of you, it can be especially&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","apple_news_api_created_at":"2016-03-17T02:27:04Z","apple_news_api_id":"ac5b31fc-781b-4a24-93d5-6133b161bb85","apple_news_api_modified_at":"2016-03-17T02:27:04Z","apple_news_api_revision":"AAAAAAAAAAD\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/w==","apple_news_api_share_url":"https:\/\/apple.news\/ArFsx_HgbSiST1WEzsWG7hQ","apple_news_cover_media_provider":"image","apple_news_coverimage":0,"apple_news_coverimage_caption":"","apple_news_cover_video_id":0,"apple_news_cover_video_url":"","apple_news_cover_embedwebvideo_url":"","apple_news_is_hidden":"","apple_news_is_paid":"","apple_news_is_preview":"","apple_news_is_sponsored":"","apple_news_maturity_rating":"","apple_news_metadata":"\"\"","apple_news_pullquote":"","apple_news_pullquote_position":"","apple_news_slug":"","apple_news_sections":[],"apple_news_suppress_video_url":false,"apple_news_use_image_component":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","csco_custom_appearance":"","csco_disable_excerpt_posts_layout":false,"csco_page_load_nextpost":"","csco_post_video_location":[],"csco_post_video_location_hash":"","csco_post_video_url":"","csco_post_video_bg_start_time":0,"csco_post_video_bg_end_time":0,"_jetpack_hide_featured_image":false,"_jetpack_featured_image_duplicate_dismissed":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4741","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","category-linked","cs-entry","cs-video-wrap"],"apple_news_notices":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pb3IC4-1et","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":3926,"url":"https:\/\/adamchandler.me\/blog\/2013\/02\/15\/linked-facebook-can-stick-with-its-real-name-policy-for-now\/","url_meta":{"origin":4741,"position":0},"title":"\u2605 Linked: &#8220;Facebook can stick with its real name policy for now\u2026&#8221;","author":"Adam Chandler","date":"February 15, 2013","format":false,"excerpt":"ITWorld: Facebook was ordered to end its real name policy and permit the use of pseudonyms on its platform by the Office of the Data Protection Commissioner (ULD) for Schleswig-Holstein last year. 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