If sexuality is just the desire for sex, then people who only masturbate should feel like the most purely sexual people on the planet. <\/em><\/p>\nThey don\u2019t. <\/em><\/p>\nRather inconveniently, people who only masturbate tend to call themselves asexual. We can\u2019t say this universally, but currently the asexual community is the only place where people who masturbate exclusively have gathered together to talk about it in any number. These people don\u2019t identify with sexuality at all. Unlike most people, who consider masturbation sexuality and sexual desire to be central motivating factors in their lives, people who only masturbate tend to think of their sexuality as nonexistent. They spend their time hanging out and sharing an identity with people who experience no sexual arousal at all, or who experience sexual arousal and are never motivated to act on it. These people relate to one another\u2019s experiences, use the same terms to describe themselves, struggle with the same problems\u00a0and swap the same strategies to tackle them, and they do it all in a community founded by someone who masturbates and calls himself asexual. What\u2019s going on here?<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\nReading more about this, nothing is black or white. There are many gray-sexuals or there are those who right now aren\u2019t and could be sexual in 10 years. It\u2019s interesting how we go through life. I\u2019m not sure I\u2019ll ever have kids\u2026or a wife for that matter. I haven\u2019t felt love for a long time or at least not in a way most people do. Maybe it\u2019s my upbringing or I was born that way but I like being left alone and there are others that do too even if they\u2019re not asexual.<\/p>\n
and swap the same strategies to tackle them, and they do it all in a community founded by someone who masturbates and calls himself asexual. 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