{"id":3918,"date":"2013-01-14T17:48:06","date_gmt":"2013-01-14T21:48:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/adam-jackson.net\/blog\/?p=3918"},"modified":"2013-01-14T17:48:06","modified_gmt":"2013-01-14T21:48:06","slug":"linked-the-end-of-courtship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/adamchandler.me\/blog\/2013\/01\/14\/linked-the-end-of-courtship\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2605 Linked: &#8220;The End of Courtship?&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class='__iawmlf-post-loop-links' style='display:none;' data-iawmlf-post-links='[{&quot;id&quot;:10194,&quot;href&quot;:&quot;http:\\\/\\\/www.nytimes.com\\\/2013\\\/01\\\/13\\\/fashion\\\/the-end-of-courtship.html?pagewanted=1&amp;_r=0&quot;,&quot;archived_href&quot;:&quot;http:\\\/\\\/web-wp.archive.org\\\/web\\\/20201112013602\\\/http:\\\/\\\/www.nytimes.com\\\/2013\\\/01\\\/13\\\/fashion\\\/the-end-of-courtship.html?pagewanted=1&quot;,&quot;redirect_href&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;checks&quot;:[{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2025-11-05 10:46:35&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:206},{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2026-01-15 05:00:42&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:403},{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2026-01-27 06:46:35&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:403},{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2026-04-04 20:20:40&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:403}],&quot;broken&quot;:true,&quot;last_checked&quot;:{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2026-04-04 20:20:40&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:403},&quot;process&quot;:&quot;done&quot;}]'><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2013\/01\/13\/fashion\/the-end-of-courtship.html?pagewanted=1&amp;_r=0\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">NYTimes:\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Many young men these days have no experience in formal dating and feel the need to be faintly ironic about the process \u2014 \u201cto \u2018date\u2019 in quotation marks\u201d \u2014 because they are \u201cworried that they might offend women by dating in an old-fashioned way,\u201d Ms. Rosin said.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019s hard to read a woman exactly right these days,\u201d she added. \u201cYou don\u2019t know whether, say, choosing the wine without asking her opinion will meet her yearnings for old-fashioned romance or strike her as boorish and macho.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Indeed, being too formal too early can send a message that a man is ready to get serious, which few men in their 20s are ready to do, said Lex Edness, a television writer in Los Angeles.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cA lot of men in their 20s are reluctant to take the girl to the French restaurant, or buy them jewelry, because those steps tend to lead to \u2018eventually, we\u2019re going to get married,\u2019 \u201d Mr. Edness, 27, said. In a tight economy, where everyone is grinding away to build a career, most men cannot fathom supporting a family until at least 30 or 35, he said.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSo it\u2019s a lot easier to meet people on an even playing field, in casual dating,\u201d he said. \u201cThe stakes are lower.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>This article was rubbish. A lot of people in my 20s agree with me.\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"NYTimes:\u00a0 Many young men these days have no experience in formal dating and feel the need to be&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"apple_news_api_created_at":"","apple_news_api_id":"","apple_news_api_modified_at":"","apple_news_api_revision":"","apple_news_api_share_url":"","apple_news_cover_media_provider":"image","apple_news_coverimage":0,"apple_news_coverimage_caption":"","apple_news_cover_video_id":0,"apple_news_cover_video_url":"","apple_news_cover_embedwebvideo_url":"","apple_news_is_hidden":"","apple_news_is_paid":"","apple_news_is_preview":"","apple_news_is_sponsored":"","apple_news_maturity_rating":"","apple_news_metadata":"\"\"","apple_news_pullquote":"","apple_news_pullquote_position":"","apple_news_slug":"","apple_news_sections":[],"apple_news_suppress_video_url":false,"apple_news_use_image_component":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","csco_custom_appearance":"","csco_disable_excerpt_posts_layout":false,"csco_page_load_nextpost":"","csco_post_video_location":[],"csco_post_video_location_hash":"","csco_post_video_url":"","csco_post_video_bg_start_time":0,"csco_post_video_bg_end_time":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[16],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-3918","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-social-media","7":"cs-entry","8":"cs-video-wrap"},"apple_news_notices":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pb3IC4-11c","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":2852,"url":"https:\/\/adamchandler.me\/blog\/2011\/08\/02\/50-divorce-tips-for-men\/","url_meta":{"origin":3918,"position":0},"title":"\u2605 &#8220;50 Divorce Tips for Men&#8221;","author":"Adam Chandler","date":"August 2, 2011","format":false,"excerpt":"Chris Pirillo: There is a reason why people warn you about the \u201crebound\u201d relationship. 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