{"id":1215,"date":"2010-11-26T23:49:21","date_gmt":"2010-11-27T04:49:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/adam-jackson.net\/blog\/?p=1215"},"modified":"2010-11-26T23:49:21","modified_gmt":"2010-11-27T04:49:21","slug":"this-will-all-become-more-complicated","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/adamchandler.me\/blog\/2010\/11\/26\/this-will-all-become-more-complicated\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2605 This will all become more complicated"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class='__iawmlf-post-loop-links' style='display:none;' data-iawmlf-post-links='[{&quot;id&quot;:14014,&quot;href&quot;:&quot;http:\\\/\\\/www.flickr.com\\\/photos\\\/adamjackson\\\/3979045978&quot;,&quot;archived_href&quot;:&quot;http:\\\/\\\/web-wp.archive.org\\\/web\\\/20190128102221\\\/https:\\\/\\\/www.flickr.com\\\/photos\\\/adamjackson\\\/3979045978\\\/&quot;,&quot;redirect_href&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;checks&quot;:[{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2025-11-06 03:57:13&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:200},{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2025-12-11 02:51:47&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:200}],&quot;broken&quot;:false,&quot;last_checked&quot;:{&quot;date&quot;:&quot;2025-12-11 02:51:47&quot;,&quot;http_code&quot;:200},&quot;process&quot;:&quot;done&quot;}]'><\/div>\n<figure style=\"width: 640px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a title=\"LoveFest AKA Lovevolution 2009 de adamjackson1984, sur Flickr\" href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/adamjackson\/3979045978\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><img  loading=\"lazy\"  decoding=\"async\"  src=\"data:image\/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAAAEAAAABAQMAAAAl21bKAAAAA1BMVEUAAP+KeNJXAAAAAXRSTlMAQObYZgAAAAlwSFlzAAAOxAAADsQBlSsOGwAAAApJREFUCNdjYAAAAAIAAeIhvDMAAAAASUVORK5CYII=\"  alt=\"LoveFest AKA Lovevolution 2009\"  width=\"640\"  height=\"480\"  class=\" pk-lazyload\"  data-pk-sizes=\"auto\"  data-pk-src=\"http:\/\/farm3.static.flickr.com\/2440\/3979045978_e31ce27ce3_z.jpg\" ><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-caption-text\">Taken in October, 2009 (LoveFest @ SF Civic Center)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>What stage in life are you in? Are you half-way in to grade school or just wrapping up the first semester of college? Did you just celebrate your one year wedding anniversary or the 1 year mark of being divorced? Are you about to retire or reading this from a hospital waiting room as your daughter gives birth to your first grandchild?<\/p>\n<p>Where are you?<\/p>\n<p>Where we are in life isn&#8217;t important but we can&#8217;t forget that it&#8217;s always about to become more complicated. Each stage of our\u00a0existence\u00a0until our final moments is layered with more complications. Why?<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Everyone needs a teacher. Everyone is seeking a teacher.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>She says this to me as we we roll over the hills of Vermont after a day of coffee &amp;\u00a0intellectual\u00a0conversation. We&#8217;re both thinkers and, at some point, we both wished we weren&#8217;t but, these days we&#8217;ve come to term with our mind\/body disconnect. She has loved and lost many more times than I have but that&#8217;s part of age. That&#8217;s the beauty of growing older. We can only hope we&#8217;ve loved more than we&#8217;ve lost. Let&#8217;s pray that we give more than we take and let&#8217;s strive to embrace far more than we push away.<\/p>\n<p>My first emotion when talking of life and growing older is regret &amp; sadness. I grow sad knowing that my first marriage is statistically not destined to last. I&#8217;m depressed at the thought of my wife cheating on me because I&#8217;m just not that into sex (fun fact!). I weep at my son&#8217;s car crash that leaves him disabled and I yearn for a son &amp; daughter that still say, &#8220;Dad, I love you.&#8221; when they go off to college to start their life away from home. I get short of breath when my 2nd marriage ends and she gets the house &amp; car. I&#8217;m afraid of the day I reach my 10th year at my current job and am handed a pink slip just as I buy my first home, it&#8217;s a 3 bedroom because we&#8217;re about to have our first kid and now I&#8217;m jobless.<\/p>\n<p>I worry about these things. The photo used above was taken at LoveFest in San Francisco. It&#8217;s an all-ages event and this is two teenage girls illegally scaling a traffic light.<\/p>\n<p>Ah youth.<\/p>\n<p>I haven&#8217;t lead a sheltered life. My parents never sheltered me. We were provided for but, compared to most middle class families, we weren&#8217;t well off. I worked minimum wage until my job at Apple at 18. Things have changed a bit. I make a lot more each year than I did at Apple and all that goes with my salary is complicated.<\/p>\n<p>Your life will become more complicated. How will you cope?<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s the point. I told her, a life-long teacher, a leader, a woman of the 50s that I fear losing my Father. He&#8217;s my teacher. How will I go on?<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;You have to realize that he&#8217;s never gone. You carry on and he&#8217;s still with you. Every time you write, speak or entertain. Each time you love, you are carrying on what your Father has given you. He&#8217;s never far away.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The thought that my Dad who&#8217;s not even 50 will one day leave me is scary. He was my age when I was born. He&#8217;ll be gone one day but not really. I&#8217;ll carry on his teachings and be the person who he had a part in shaping. That&#8217;s life.<\/p>\n<p>In my years with Laura, I never kissed another woman. I never cheated. Before her, I never cheated on my previous girlfriend of 3 years. I don&#8217;t cheat. A friend told me that 80% of married men cheat on their wives. This makes me sad. It&#8217;s depressing to hear this statistic. It&#8217;s depressing to know that 1 in 5 men will break the promise they made.<\/p>\n<p>Your integrity means more than anything.<\/p>\n<p>How\u00a0committed\u00a0are you to your own life? Most of us are\u00a0hypocrites. I am most of the time but that&#8217;s the problem when you publish your growth and life lessons. As I grow and change, it&#8217;s so simple for people reading this to go back and read the stupid crap i wrote 2-10 years ago.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;A poet will write of the importance of turning the other cheek. One day, he may write of the many men who died by his hand.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Our lives are always in a state of change. That&#8217;s why I wrote that we should strive to hug more than push away. I want to be there for the people who are there for me and improve on my state of being and the impact I have on this world.<\/p>\n<p>You don&#8217;t have to be me just as much as much as I don&#8217;t have to be you but we&#8217;ll learn from each other.<\/p>\n<p>and yes, this will all become more complicated. Just you see.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"What stage in life are you in? 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